Hey Homeschool dad!
You are “the man” to your family. You are the foundation on which the whole family is supported and they simply could not do life without you. It’s important for you to know that you are deeply and heartily appreciated. Today your wife might have nursed the baby, taught the other children, made a homemade lunch, cleaned up multiple messes, read storybooks and did 5 loads of laundry, but nobody gets as much glory as dad when he plays toss the kids up in the air and gives them whiskery kisses. You are more than just a breadwinner, you are a hero to your kids.
Because you are “that hero” (shameless VeggieTale reference) your children view you as a powerful role model. I want to encourage you to set a high vision for them no matter what their ages. The behavioral expectations for children in society today are appallingly low and part of changing that is setting the bar a bit higher. Your children need to see you behaving honorably in every circumstance, so they understand clearly what good behavior looks like. They need to see you try your best at tasks and they need to be encouraged to do the same.
Let’s be honest and acknowledge that your children are not always going to clear the good behavior bar that you have set for them and that’s when Dad needs to flex his proverbial muscle. There seems to be no substitute for a father’s influence when it comes to matters of discipline. When kids know that Dad is going to back Mom up it makes a tremendous difference in their behavior. So, if Dad checks up on how things went during the day then the parenting power multiplies because the kids know that Mom and Dad are a united front.
Your relationship with mom is vital to more than just good discipline. Dr. Mark Lowery, professor at the University of Dallas writes, “In a word, a crucial contribution to the homeschool on the part of the father is his attitude toward his wife. Needless to say, children pick up very quickly on the quality of relationship between their two parents and are profoundly influenced by it.” The investment your wife is making in the lives of your children by teaching homeschool lessons, developing character, and instilling lasting values is time consuming. She may have little time left over to create gourmet meals and keep a spotless home. Your children are watching and listening to you to find out what you value the most.
Thank you for all you do, Dad. You are a busy man with many responsibilities and your family would be lost without your leadership. You are that hero! (Sorry. . .the same shameless VeggieTale reference).